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Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 3 - The Execution
After eight years together and a whirlwind planning phase, we somehow managed to execute on our vision better than we ever imagined.
May 25, 20248 min read
Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 2 - The Planning
There were so many challenges in bringing together Indian, Persian, and American norms that we seriously considered scrapping the wedding.
Apr 28, 20248 min read
Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 1 - The Vision
After a grueling year and a half of updating spreadsheets till 2am, we successfully hosted our Indian-Persian wedding last June.
Mar 8, 20245 min read
Diwali Then vs. Diwali Now
This year, my husband and I were celebrating our "Thala Diwali" (Tamil tradition for first Diwali post-marriage) so we wanted to make it...
Nov 18, 20234 min read
![He thought Sunday was hard but didn’t know what was coming with Thursday 🤭
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[Persian American husband learns Tamil]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/527321788_1490096209075912_9034535461702480182_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=104&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=u898iDLpZGsQ7kNvwFfWaep&_nc_oc=Adm_6eD2b0Zl6evRMiFwXKzOsOGLIUTnepSd7vnltyc58r-Q5GzhI0z9jl0bQ1nOxUg&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfYz-aozEj2FC78Jd3RhC8xAd5tE0tP_fkbq0rJOtAoIjw&oe=68C0589C)
![If you didn’t even wince once, you’re not oiling right 💆🏽♀️🤣
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[husband wife Indian hair oiling]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/520639293_709499561964102_6938671210992019268_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=lUAt80ztg6AQ7kNvwGTbRJY&_nc_oc=AdlyohC-uKyOTOAQE17ot8bxWl3On8JGOEV8gBM9XX9mY4BLO8vRoPOa0J0F2fSlWXY&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfZjC7gIsBDgAhvmpPzDO8DuJyneQ5sClrkhzh3QdVoodA&oe=68C0279F)
![Anyone else’s partner really into South Asian gold?? 😅
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[American husband wears Indian gold]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/497406299_2182223338898999_1107540160325566086_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=107&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=cqXig9K93A0Q7kNvwFrJ-ep&_nc_oc=AdlQQUoNqLaxeqxBvwjY8p-dfb5mz_cFqKzDMBl_IZeUwVH2NuuJLFnfov7nhpd1K30&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfZiU8fDljl3SOjveQ-DzqjTDAwHXLsx79d-p82Tg1i_fg&oe=68C040E8)
![And this is why different perspectives are always valuable 😎
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#mixedcouple #tamilfood #interracialcouple #indianpersiancouple #interraciallove #idlisambhar #americantamil #thirdculturekid #idli #idlisteamer #mixedculture #southindian #southindianfood #indiancooking #indiandumplings #americanpongal
[Steaming dumplings in an idli tray]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/491463242_1388198429272037_5437351176563211982_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=111&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=p1MeaAQJ_EAQ7kNvwGby8Iv&_nc_oc=AdkAhEv9BMNzdVtHBTYZ9pV0zRMQvprMpUbm81zoG5aMK-akQsj-QWqgwv6X36kv8AE&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfaQpHxj1GXAw4fxH5BgOEakYjk7_RJyRkcnPqB6mklSyg&oe=68C04F86)
![Shout out to SKC for coming up with this idea! We had so much fun making this video (and eating the snacks 😋) Check out @sweetkaramcoffee_india for a taste of home!
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[Foreigner trying South Indian Snacks]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/483489877_17937059825992148_2704798533672032906_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=AAUV1Sfm-LQQ7kNvwH-pXzI&_nc_oc=AdmlbHj78tbq_CZR0QWCHakjMhhWZWDBut-MTMRCE68CUlBdEzjJcIKKOKIv3HYr2fc&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfY57OVAsRrs2NA-OK3oYPULSiAlEcutlPAdBvIAOV5BHw&oe=68C0263A)
![A little sneak peak of enlightening Miad to the world of South Indian snacks! 🍿😋
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[Foreigner tries South Indian snacks]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/483036581_17936612960992148_2774128093074570010_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=qG890Qhxt0sQ7kNvwGOiP73&_nc_oc=AdmkvY8Ldh6pd1lG1z0vZechHimyrzoQmhzJCXBac2ccOPhMccAOsSQs_HjXLj92I0c&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfawwXNJTkhJjbpclWlXV8rKZNj_no7sEZyMGHVJcPBptQ&oe=68C02746)
![Perfect for those upcoming Nowruz plans!🌹
Sidenote: This is Miad’s favorite Indian song 😝
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[Persian Saffron Rose Ice Cream in Ninja Cream]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/482417080_17936015990992148_4457713233491115419_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=110&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=JU3Lz8OOdGsQ7kNvwFKkfvf&_nc_oc=AdmGRIF6DBv5BJWWGlABH5ZbKpqf95AQ5J987nLBgC3kgzhsEhTcSmbgcEkah0M-yUo&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfaGRucQEhsljSFVwqtiTpVEwgG5UKOBDkETSDjDMjsTyg&oe=68C03D49)
![One trait I get from my dad is a love of learning 👩🏽🏫 It’s never too late to try something new!
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[retired dad pursuing hobbies]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/482498315_17935736114992148_7937764626776237542_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=108&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=kGKjJaF6ncoQ7kNvwGkDCuI&_nc_oc=AdkMmGeOb_Ge95o4xBKXwg0nlH0_paSVAQfLjRl0Mn99saVsmPsKxLpzilbCYTciP7Q&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfaZN4N581L_Oy7SCku4ijNKq00qUziJwVMoh1rkcsBmTg&oe=68C02C41)
![Traditions are important but they should also be relevant. What traditions and norms do you think it’s time to get rid of? 👀 [Full link in bio]
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[Blog post about eloping to avoid wedding stress from outdated Indian and Persian social norms]](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/481354642_17935141868992148_3567065446015536751_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=-BozyBEVzZ8Q7kNvwHd_j1n&_nc_oc=AdnocACDUU5Co0UY2YVFH0CZlehN73s6BVvyn1MsjhieAY69ModZOnooXyY0tna6gRM&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfZxq8vxkK9zYqZhGO21AXPvNHP4tNAFQclQfwfm8AhGDQ&oe=68C0288C)
![We still had a proper wedding too but it was so special to do this just for us🩶🧿
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[Couple eloping in Paris]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/481789390_17935145261992148_5501791637241467774_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=Biz4EPW-Oq0Q7kNvwHK7997&_nc_oc=AdnrET9943bb57pB2CsUlG0_pdwP9xyMtZyXjEzsEMucNSlsAplZCUjXJtk5b1sR8Xc&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfZDMkym2ugiFVoKb6IvoFAODMsM_mp4F-RTWN5R42l-fQ&oe=68C0377B)
![He deserves some extra points for the Pongalo Pongal dance🕺
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[Persian American husband celebrating Pongal]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/474133511_17930399681992148_983250814392850211_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=108&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=hA9Khfj_-pEQ7kNvwFbI3-U&_nc_oc=AdkCeaAFEvDqQzBOc3bI2D6fTJVDz-bUuBQ-ltYSYak1DjLDVOfgDueYxvPJFHuNdMA&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfbE1BOfOGe-z0onFypQPJZVwrkoKwqoXMPazoLf6lKZAQ&oe=68C05549)
![This hot topic is too close to home to stay silent before the election. Remember to vote!! 🗳️ [Full link in bio]
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#immigrant #immigrantsmakeamericagreat #usimmigration #immigration #americancitizen #citizenship #thirdculturekid #immigrantstories #immigrantsofamerica #indianimmigrants #writersofinstagram #aspiringwriter #blogpost #southasianwriters](https://scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/464176877_507591055596973_2832185252060112706_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=18de74&_nc_ohc=Yxn5zLYzQ6UQ7kNvwGJCx4s&_nc_oc=AdmJkfJNBfU9QYkjAaxzbMehi9h014hl2x0FcohyGLFYl0hguQtUsfDv-50gvYSg80w&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-sea5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=xIVKHjulAl3U4j_ONjPsCg&oh=00_AfbijCqdAcyO8UUzqgG0C13NNl7hxOR1qSRyoKIu-trHDQ&oe=68C03BD8)
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