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two third culture kids navigating interracial love & life.
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Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 3 - The Execution
After eight years together and a whirlwind planning phase, we somehow managed to execute on our vision better than we ever imagined.
May 25, 20248 min read


Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 2 - The Planning
There were so many challenges in bringing together Indian, Persian, and American norms that we seriously considered scrapping the wedding.
Apr 28, 20248 min read


Our Indian-Persian Wedding Debriefed: Part 1 - The Vision
After a grueling year and a half of updating spreadsheets till 2am, we successfully hosted our Indian-Persian wedding last June.
Mar 7, 20245 min read


Diwali Then vs. Diwali Now
This year, my husband and I were celebrating our "Thala Diwali" (Tamil tradition for first Diwali post-marriage) so we wanted to make it...
Nov 18, 20234 min read
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![I tend to be a little protective of sharing my cultural holidays with non-Indians because I don’t want to invite the disrespectful/ignorant comments that often come with it. This year we included friends for the first time and it turned out to be the best decision. Some people might judge but most - especially the ones who love you, are only going to appreciate being fully let into your world. 🤎 One day when we have the space and community, our goal is to host a big party for Diwali (and Nowruz) so all our loved ones can join in! 🥰🙏🏽🎇
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#mixedcouple #indianpersiancouple #indianamerican #thirdculturekid #interracialcouple #mixedcouplegoals #diwali #diwalicelebration #celebratingdiwali #diwaliwithfriends #paintingdiyas #diwaliideas
[celebrating Diwali with friends away from home]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/571857014_808241891986806_2177065224726200831_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=79qaxhRWAd0Q7kNvwEovbeW&_nc_oc=AdmsTw8WQ4zxBBaCOBdVm4lALpn3QBwjhnjH91WPtbZsClNDd2roMh0etUUqUOivBn8&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfnpTX9u4JWkLu1ReoZ5K7R4Uhyx5ZYgRMhz0KyiuQDHQQ&oe=69386250)





![Sometimes a cup of coffee is more than just a morning pick me up - This particular cup of coffee always feels like a warm hug from my grandma from across the world. ☕️
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#thirdculturekid #indianamerican #mixedculture #tamil #tamilfood #southindianfood #filtercoffee #southindiancoffee #culturalidentity #immigrantlife #immigrantchildren #indiansabroad
[Learning to make South Indian filter coffee]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/551512536_1819276675381207_613532640551994617_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=110&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=DenPzWm6ChsQ7kNvwGmYMDL&_nc_oc=Admg8hI8R8UpmepXPw6aV2P7pU2UuIZ2AVEeOKMgTcPrpj4-OraFO-3Tz683fTwA7vA&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfkZiQsy4Mp-Ns718Nw4_YcnNGrhQmcwnXJr3Oj1FR4SVw&oe=6938422C)

![Zanzibar wasn’t even on our radar as we planned our Safari trip but when I stumbled upon the island during my research, I knew we had to add a stop there. The blend of African, Indian, European, and Middle Eastern influences makes this location truly one of a kind and seeing a glimpse of Zanzibar’s history in person actually inspired us to go back to our hotel and watch YouTube videos just to learn more about it. This is why I believe in the saying “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer” - it can take you from knowing nothing about a place to developing genuine curiosity and leaving with insights that stick you long after a trip ends. 🏝️
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#africattravel #coupletravel #zanzibarisland #zanzibar #tanzania #visittanzania #zanzibarvlog
[Zanzibar travel vlog and highlights]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/547502373_643981735097670_4773577886335163146_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=vLNq7q5z8UUQ7kNvwHrPGOb&_nc_oc=AdnjZRZvlpgXUf5OtLvLvruKFihPngNu_CWlFTMx2qHVtGYTrWbxG4upjNU7vTSLjTA&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_Afn_c5XZS5Iu0yQWzpRALbBPPELUVsvmlg4V2YbkBUXoxw&oe=69384C29)
![Many eastern cultures have the concept of “Evil Eye” which is believed to bring misfortune, illness, setbacks, etc. When our trip had a turbulent start with the travel agency booking the wrong dates and our car breaking down, I knew it was time to pull out the big guns and get rid of any negative energy fast. 🙅🏽♀️ There are various different rituals and protective measures for removing negative energy but the best we could come up with on the road was stealing the salt packets from our lunches - Say what you will but I swear our luck turned around after!! 🤨 If you believe in evil eye, what rituals do you use to remove it? 🧿
#evileye #evileyeremoval #nazar #nazarremoval #negativeenergy #removenegativeenergy #saltcleanse #indianculture #southasianculture #easternbeliefs #superstition #kandrishti
[evil eye removal with salt]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/543977814_1498817604904018_1739787604433964340_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=107&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=kFmYwTr8QGgQ7kNvwGy6CTU&_nc_oc=AdnKQs6TOw4M4gVuYdF7n8gxtlSQcH13hVjY20-ZQOE3bovXLMMjSlukmIr2xUR7TwU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfkFaUvhUceN0PkH3ujwOm2IubFR-jjlMu4gbQSPrL2w6Q&oe=693859AF)


![He thought Sunday was hard but didn’t know what was coming with Thursday 🤭
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#mixedcouple #indianpersiancouple #indianamerican #thirdculturekid #interracialcouple #mixedcouplegoals #tamillanguage #learntamil #southindian #indianfamily
[Persian American husband learns Tamil]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/527321788_1490096209075912_9034535461702480182_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=104&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=LdOoB_BBiOsQ7kNvwFIYqJ0&_nc_oc=Admm95E4DKWpopL6huMEWUTOQivQVg53joox-DmFwWOvFnPXcQLXXFj_n6mry1Kp0DM&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfnHMpL_VEumt7bJYal3q8tSknnKkSjGuXNXcwGyyPt0zQ&oe=6938511C)
![If you didn’t even wince once, you’re not oiling right 💆🏽♀️🤣
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#mixedcouple #indianhair #indianhairoil #hairoil #hairoiling #indianbeautysecrets #indianamerican #mixedculture #mixedculturehome #indianpersian #marriedlife #interraciallove #mixedcouplegoals
[husband wife Indian hair oiling]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/520639293_709499561964102_6938671210992019268_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=109&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=dDFaCp-lAIIQ7kNvwGu0h44&_nc_oc=AdmHwEsBVK6-8jPLMJVcdnTQ3IdXU3WW12c3VQYoe8GRGd_9iNOV6HzpYsiAqZ2vwjw&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AflHDx5KwUrTjPT3oUPc2gOyIZcJGSnUVp8RLLUrhPxlEg&oe=6938585F)





![Anyone else’s partner really into South Asian gold?? 😅
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#mixedcouple #indianpersiancouple #indianamerican #interracialcouple #thirdculturekid #indianpersian #mixedcouplegoals #mixedculture #indiangold #southasianjewelry #goldjewellery #mensjewelry
[American husband wears Indian gold]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/497406299_2182223338898999_1107540160325566086_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=107&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=U6Al0LHA8L4Q7kNvwEqzYGp&_nc_oc=Adm1ZJu9-UVwtvllIZ9OWrCDboVrQmmXn2gxaQ2rhAU5dn9bXyyNBvr5To1lmU-MptM&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_Afm7h9bSY9jkfkXFqj2Vov5vUCQDdU6aNldOSEJDnGiAXg&oe=693871A8)

![And this is why different perspectives are always valuable 😎
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#mixedcouple #tamilfood #interracialcouple #indianpersiancouple #interraciallove #idlisambhar #americantamil #thirdculturekid #idli #idlisteamer #mixedculture #southindian #southindianfood #indiancooking #indiandumplings #americanpongal
[Steaming dumplings in an idli tray]](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.71878-15/491463242_1388198429272037_5437351176563211982_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=111&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=hqAZ3QtOL64Q7kNvwFjwFZF&_nc_oc=Adkrd-HE7_2565VHfW_SDTKisP1ibWUvjg7zV8se39lcy5z-uaOO5KmHO1bNu1tEOqA&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_Afk6d7jm8Hfonwv94Nb4YG0wU3uia9_x7Cm1m9uaElHj0g&oe=69384806)




![Shout out to SKC for coming up with this idea! We had so much fun making this video (and eating the snacks 😋) Check out @sweetkaramcoffee_india for a taste of home!
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#indiansnacks #mixedindiancouple #indianpersian #indianpersiancouple #mixedcouple #interracialcouple #southindiansnacks #bananachips #spicymixture #sweetkaramcoffee #indianamerican #thirdculturekid #mixedcouplegoals #southindiancuisine #mysorepak #indiansnackbrand
[Foreigner trying South Indian Snacks]](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/483489877_17937059825992148_2704798533672032906_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=GJnviptOpUMQ7kNvwGXRDvg&_nc_oc=Adk4NiCSPtLfmB9yWXi7IQM-XHLFwMIPXsWkONvX-6nnX0N8smBtkxEuO89g5jqio7A&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_Afk7JGHfWKT9q8y83zqpfehCagUPAkujsGbSWodIIiMogw&oe=693856FA)
![A little sneak peak of enlightening Miad to the world of South Indian snacks! 🍿😋
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#mixedcouple #indianpersiancouple #indianamerican #thirdculturekid #interracialcouple #mixedcouplegoals #southindianfood #southindiansnacks #indiansnacks #traditionalindiansnacks
[Foreigner tries South Indian snacks]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/483036581_17936612960992148_2774128093074570010_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=eZ5nHFegNQkQ7kNvwF8eTrQ&_nc_oc=AdkK8kuIGDjtidCNYsYOA8GkwVvTMuwYj2NpcRrUT2T5rsZHxyrQDhMhxojAj3fCTlI&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AflUPX9K9RGpTgz2DxsCI0WRQc1ZrThFUM8-3RHIjE9Xhg&oe=69385806)

![Perfect for those upcoming Nowruz plans!🌹
Sidenote: This is Miad’s favorite Indian song 😝
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#saffronicecream #homemadeicecream #ninjacreami #ninjacreamisaffronicecream #persianrecipe #persianfusionrecipe #iraniancooking #persianicecream #ninjacreamirecipes #indianpersiancouple #persianamerican #mixedculture #mixedculturehome #mixedrecipe
[Persian Saffron Rose Ice Cream in Ninja Cream]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/482417080_17936015990992148_4457713233491115419_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=110&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=ZYgooH0OwgAQ7kNvwEoi6xq&_nc_oc=AdnVjTBjKDvOcKOuskdZQk6SViqCCVi-vBwaDMyKAxzd485MfV79O_1DWfTsMBsEzGY&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_Afll3gKIW2u09Q0bm4DqoUKRXVZd0VtDeFNczbsd18jVMQ&oe=69386E09)


![One trait I get from my dad is a love of learning 👩🏽🏫 It’s never too late to try something new!
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#indianparents #indiandad #retirement #retiredliving #retirementhobby #retirementlife #sanskrit #learningnewskills
[retired dad pursuing hobbies]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/482498315_17935736114992148_7937764626776237542_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=108&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=K53YUS2mnaoQ7kNvwFr1jMu&_nc_oc=AdkjktgRfCCUYG5DfJVQ4uK-dwKqimqiny7z4nH4ajbgUcKalaqY1PyiGr4oZLbg0VU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfmtMLl2EaCqnvxXrPUZPB6vN0c3Xe9Rv5xjnDE3Ub0qQw&oe=69385D01)

![Traditions are important but they should also be relevant. What traditions and norms do you think it’s time to get rid of? 👀 [Full link in bio]
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#mixedrelationship #indianpersiancouple #indoiranian #indianfamily #indianculture #thirdculturekids #mixedcouples #interracialcouple #interfaith #tamilcouple #indianwriters #southasianculture #culturalidentity #blogpost #tarof #southasiannorms #indiannorms #pariselopement #aspiringauthor #aspiringwriter #southasianwriters #parisengagement #beachproposal #customsandcastle
[Blog post about eloping to avoid wedding stress from outdated Indian and Persian social norms]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/481354642_17935141868992148_3567065446015536751_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=102&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0FST1VTRUxfSVRFTS5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=fhNpHmF3zNkQ7kNvwED6U-G&_nc_oc=AdkIkkAbgvuHwcxR8zd9D11UwXYQClo0WccaKcazzBqk8svfzlenosjRFnL1PU3w7yY&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfljgfO_URb4GzFssFKAuo_o61SqBz_-MnM97UBwjonedQ&oe=6938594C)
![We still had a proper wedding too but it was so special to do this just for us🩶🧿
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[Couple eloping in Paris]](https://scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/481789390_17935145261992148_5501791637241467774_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=106&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=OTwuhJ0Rna8Q7kNvwHDfrhZ&_nc_oc=Adm36jSM2xXGExcSrRphgRCIJHx5GCuSBVN8BupytZsu6KgmiNL-8gWMhtLgfx8xOXc&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-2.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AflhtA0swLIWsVwO9a9pXttOUeDbNeozAqQofNxy52yp0w&oe=6938683B)





![He deserves some extra points for the Pongalo Pongal dance🕺
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[Persian American husband celebrating Pongal]](https://scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/474133511_17930399681992148_983250814392850211_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=108&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0xJUFMuYmVzdF9pbWFnZV91cmxnZW4uQzMifQ%3D%3D&_nc_ohc=7DmOyatgH9YQ7kNvwHHYbXe&_nc_oc=AdlbEWH_SLQxVZr4pxh24MT5rX4edaaUUQFi4LshPyXk1q2WU9dujHgsoispol-GgVU&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent-iad3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=qDlpalB48w2v7vp-cmwYQw&oh=00_AfkuhAshXBYtEGhBPskFMpqVLFLQpGOt3rpv8asCESAoIw&oe=69384DC9)







